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Ok to Cry

  How often do you cry? Crying doesn’t follow a schedule. Sometimes it will hit me out of nowhere, suddenly something will cause my chest to feel tight and my eyes to start stinging. Other times it will build up slowly. I won’t notice the pressure until it finally spills over.  When I was little, I cried all the time over anything. If something didn’t go my way, or if I didn't get what I wanted I would cry. It helped that I had an older sister who would baby me no matter what, so I knew that crying worked. My parents would also usually give in, and crying kind of became my default reaction. As I got older, that changed. Crying started to make me feel weak, dramatic, or that I couldn’t handle things. I have always been a sensitive person. I overthink small reactions and moments that other people brush off. I notice tones in voices and faces and take them personally. I remember one time in middle school, I was sitting at lunch with my friends, and one of them told me to move so ...

Do you have helicopter parents?

  “Do you have helicopter parents?” A helicopter parent is someone who hovers over every part of their kid’s life: school, friendships, decisions. They try to control everything to protect them from failure. Going with that definition, I don’t think my parents are helicopter parents, but my parents do have really high standards that end up controlling aspects of my life. My parents are sometimes confusing to my friends because they are super chill about some things, and then randomly extremely intense about others. There’s really no in-between. They will let me hang out with my friends almost whenever but they will also take away my phone or not let me hang out at all if I have a test coming up.  For academics, no matter what, they are never chill. They have very high standards, and are the type to say, “why didn’t you get a 100 instead of a 97.” Getting all A’s is never an accomplishment, it is always the bare minimum. My mom will also send me reminders for opportunities outs...